CHEATING
I think one of the biggest questions in the relationship realm is why do people cheat? Well, I am guessing for a number of reasons. I think mostly because people feel like something is missing. Have you noticed when a person gets caught cheating, and I mean like in the act. They freak out, and instantly begin to apologize. Well, they do this because, they are doing what they would rather be doing with the one they truly want to be with to the other person. Is cheating exceptable? By marriage laws, no its not. It is in the individuals mind doing the cheating that makes it exceptable. There is a simple solution to this. Don't do anything, that you would not want your mate to be doing. Too easy right? Well, sexual temptation is one of the hardest things to control. As a man, I will agree to this.
I did mention that I am a happily married man. That does not mean, that I do not look. You will look, its guaranteed. How do you think you found the one your are with? You had to see her/him first. You can look, but don't touch! See once you got married right. There was not you, her, and her homegirl. There was not you, her and homeboy at the altar saying the vows. Just you and her. Only ONE person is supposed to separate you two. Thats God, when he decides to bring one of you home. When a person cheats with you, KNOWING you are married. They are disrespecting God, you, and your wife and themselves. See the one you cheat with, does not have anything to lose majority of the time. They go on about their business, and you are stuck dealing with all the hell there is to follow. There is one way to handle this.
If you want to still be out there doing your thing. Get a divorce first, THEN go on about your way. At least you will not be putting your whole family through the drama. See, there is a BIG double standard going on when it comes to infidelity. Men can sleep with as many women as he pleases. But when a woman does the same with men, she is classified as a whore.
I tell men often, if you cannot take what you dish out. Then don't do it. 10 times out of 10, men can't. We don't want to even have the mere THOUGHT of our little angel, sleeping with someone else. Simply because through a men eyes. For something to be so beautiful, so soft, so warm, and so soft spoken, and so beautiful. They see it as, HOW COULD YOU BE SO LOW!!!? It just does not fit ladies! You are automatically held to a higher standard than men. You should feel very special knowing that you are already looked at as a queen from birth. If you are presenting yourself in this way. People have died behind cheating. Obviously it is a serious matter!
In a relationship cheating is probably one of the worst things that can be done to a person. Granted yes abuse is not an exception either. I think its also the deception thats involved and the selfishness of it. The loss of loyalty, and God KNOWS the pain!! So you have to think, is it really worth it? With this being said, this leads to my next page. The Most Expensive PZY. Also, one last thing to think about. If you have done all of what is concidered the right things in your relationship and the person cheats. Tell them this, you did not cheat on me. You cheated on YOURSELF!! It was their loss, not yours. They actually did you a favor. No reason to walk around with your head down about it. Keep you head held high, and keep on living your life. They will begin to realize what they had before when its gone.
Listen to this one. There is a thing called the 80/20 rule. Most men have or women have 80% at home ok. Then they go out looking for the other 20% trying to get 100%. They end up losing the 80% one, and then all you have left is....20%. So I'll say this. If you truly have someone worth holding on too. I suggest you do just that. Sometimes, its tough to just be with the one your with, without adding other people to the equation. Which could bring in a LOT of unwanted headaches. So it pays to just be loyal, faithfull, and content. Take care and be blessed.