Commitment- means to show loyalty, duty or pledge to something or someone.
I have heard many times, what will make a man commit? Well, I will say this it is on the person/s own preference. All men do not like the same type of woman. Some like them ghetto, shy, independent, submissive, and so many more. Men are very simple creatures though. The old saying, what you did in the beginning is what you need to do to keep them. If those things stop, thats when the dissatisfaction comes into play. Then the next thing you know. You are out there "looking" for that person to fill in those gaps that have been created.
You know what you are willing to commit too. What you can except. A simple question comes to mind. Lets say you are both in your thirties. You have been together for a while. Before you make that decision to be there for life ask yourself. If you live to be 100 years old. Can you live the next 70 years feeling the way you do right now? That is a very important question there.
For instance, I was in a relationship. I was there for about 5 years. But I had been in the situation where I did not want to hurt her feelings. Not being just straight up and honest about the situation. I was VERY unhappy. But I hung in there making sure that I had done everything that I could to make sure my decision will be legit. She was not the "one" for me. She ask him many times, to get married. Needless to say, it did not happen. She just did not possess the qualities that he was looking for to commit to her. With time I moved on.
Now happily married, simply because the one I am with possesses EVERYTHING that could have wanted in a mate. So it was very easy for me to commit to her. This story can go both ways here. I am quite sure there are some women who have been in this same situation or similar. The bottom line is. You and ONLY you know what you are willing to settle for, and commit too. Be honest with yourself and your partner from the beginning! Lay the cards out on the table, give each other a fair chance before time is waisted.
Commitment is so much more simpler when you have someone you truly WANT to be with. To commit to someone that is totally against what you are about, more than likely will NOT work. This goes back to the honesty subtopic. See how just being truthful works. If you claim you want to be there for the long hall. Be honest with yourselves. You deserve it. If anything else remember this. When you get married/commit to someone. You commit to the words/vows, not the person. See a person can change, the vows will always stay the same. Just think about this for a few minutes.
Male
I _____, take you ______, to be my wedded wife. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
Female
I, _____, take you ______, to be my wedded husband. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
But do understand this. Do not be going through life with a fool!! I would like to think that we are all mature enough to know the difference. Be happy with one another, love smart. Take care, and God bless.