Reversing Roles
Reversing the roles in a relationship? These roles were established LONG before we were here. God made them when he made Adam, and Eve. Now, today women are more independent. And there is nothing wrong with that. Because noone can take care of you better than you. Now the question of this topic is this. Can the roles be reversed without conflict? The answer is, a solid HELL NO!! To find a woman that can take a man sitting at home, and she out being the breadwinner, will be VERY slim to none. Its is just that...thing thats there.
Now is there something wrong with that? It depends on those two individuals. Everyone runs there home differently. They do what works for them. But fellas listen, when your role is take away from you. What more do you have left to give her. I would feel less of a man if it were me. That is not to down talk any man that is doing this. That is for me personally. How come you think, when a woman says, "I don't need you" cuts so deeply? You are taking away what we were put here for. So, we will feel like, well why should I even try, and what are we living for? Ladies, we WANT to be there for you. We want to give to you, so....let us!
We know that you can change out the light bulb in the house. But let him do it. Allow that man to do the "manly" things around the house. At least he will see that he has a significance around there. Now, this is somewhat of a delicate area. I heard that some women will resent a man for being at home and they are the breadwinners. I have heard it go as far as her calling him a "B". But this is the man she fell in love with only to disrespect him so badly.
Ladies, I think that a man CAN deal with you making the money, just do not hold that over his head. Do not rain on that man's ego. Fellas, if you think for one min, that the women do not talk about out you and she is the provider. You got another thing coming!
Ladies if you continue to rain on his ego, he will leave you!! So do you see how much termoil can come from not doing what was supposed to be done from the beginning of time? So, its quite obvious that you need to simply. Know your role, play that role, and BE that role.
Now, men, there are some women out there that REALLY put it down for their homes. To give women some praise here ok. I know of a woman, she was in the military. This is how her day went, Monday through Friday. She would get up about 4 am, get the kids up, get them dressed, go into do physical training, go back home, change to go BACK to work. Work all day, get off, get the kids, feed them, make sure homework was done. Then finally, take a shower herself, then go to bed. Time being about 8:30 to 9:00PM. Remember now, this was five days a week!! It was amazing to watch this. Seeing how strong this woman is.
I just had to marry her!! HA! HA! HA! Yes, this woman is now my wife. And she is STILL this way today! Now, as I said before ladies. Its your responsiblilty, not you "job". Those kids are your responsiblity, that home you have, same thing. I am not saying that is all you are supposed to do. I am very aware of the fact it takes two people now a days to run a home. So with you doing all of this. I can understand how you would have an attitude when you say, "I can do it by myself"! Sometimes, yes it is a lot to deal with.
So when that man leaves you high and dry. It can be VERY disappointing and hurtful. That is where you two as a couple are supposed to support each other. Just as a man works hard. Take care of him, and she works hard, take care of her. It just simply goes hand to hand. Take care and be blessed!