Still Have Fun!!
I know that there are couples, especially married couples that seem to stop having fun after they get married. I guess that what's considered the "lock down" thing. You have to understand something, just because you are married does not mean that you stop having fun. Some people feel that, "well I won the race now I can kick back and enjoy the ride." Nope, that is not the way to do it. You STILL should go out on dates. Spend time together as a couple. If a marriage gets boring, you may end up getting a divorce. So you have to keep it fun for each other. Spend that alone time together. Now, lets bring in another situation...kids.
Oh yeah, now, this is where it gets a little more interesting. I understand that sometimes when you have children, your time is limited. But you STILL have to make an effort to have alone time together. A common one is this, when the wife is at home all day with the kids, especially the first 5 years of their life, the husband comes home and wants some "time". I promise you, that will be the LAST thing on her mind. So, if you can men try to lift some of the weight off of her. She will have time for you.
Women think that if you can go to work, and come home and have energy for sex and not help with the kids, She is going to have a BIG problem with that. If you help her, to some women, that's foreplay. She will see that you consider her. Then she will be MORE than happy to give you the time that you want men. Put the kids to bed a little early sometimes. Hopefully you have some friends that do not mind keeping them for a day or two. Then you can have that time together. Going back to what I said about men helping around the house. Fellas, I know that you are probably thinking, "if I have to come home and do things too, I have a problem with that, or what do I need her for?"
Well, if these are your thoughts, cancel that "time" you want then. It is a two way street. Put yourself in her shoes for a minute. Say you been at work all day, you are tired, and she wants to have sex with you. This will not be on your mind either. You will want to unwind, rest, and THEN mabey have sex with her. So as you can see, its a team effort. You will be surprised at what going on dates can do for your marriage. I do it as often as possible. How many people you know like to go to Wal-Mart, just to walk around and spend time together. I know PLENTY!! I am one of them. Once the kids are asleep. The wife and I will go to Wal-Mart, just to have some alone time, simply walking and talking. It keeps you from getting bored, or tired of being around each other. Lord knows its good getting away from home sometimes also.
Now, getting time together is going to definitely be tough when you go into a ready made family. The kids are already present. So you have to start from the beginning trying to find ways to have fun together. I will say this, it does become easier as the children get older. The trust of them being at home alone will begin to come. This is when you take advantage of the time you two are supposed to have together. So as you can see, there are ways to have quality time together. As the saying goes. "Use it, or lose it"!